Families are complex systems. The work we do with families focuses on relationships and communication patterns as much as individual family members. Looking at the family from both the individual and the relationship levels helps us establish patterns that are self-correcting over time, and ensures that all members of the family feel respected and included. We start by exploring the basic features such as agreements and roles, and as we identify issues we set goals to make things run more smoothly.
The main question of Adolescence is "Who am I?" In an era of cyber-bullying, late-night texting, and a proliferation of new social outlets, the pressure to answer this question can be overwhelming. Teens have to figure out who they'll be as adults but they can't neglect their homework along the way. Parents are usually involved, but due to the increasing need for developing identity apart from parents, the level of parental involvement can be different based on the issues at play, and can change through the course of treatment.
LIfe doesn't get any easier when you're an adult. We experience disillusionment, anxiety, depression, and the stress of making it this far can take its toll. Work with adults emphasizes gaining insight, and using behavioral techniques to help get unstuck from ruts. It can be fun, but it can be scary and difficult in its own way. We tend to like to hear things that confirm our pre-existing beliefs and the work of therapy is in challenging those beliefs at times.
Darryl Graham, Psy.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist